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Good luck either way mate

I've been at the same company for 18 years now. And yesterday they announced a restructure for our team that I am actually excited about and think will be a good thing. First time that has happened since I joined

I'd be a happy man if I could find something in my job to get excited about after 18 years. There can't be many people in that situation.

Something similar happened to me only it was the restructure that brought a redefinition to my role which I enjoyed. A subsequent restructure has redefined it again and sucked the life out of me. Enjoy it while it lasts.

We are leaving the life sucking phase, and going into a land of (comparative) freedom. 

Morale has been pretty low in my team for a while, but everyone is happy now. Just have to hope it can last

Haven't ventured into this thread for a long while, glad I did!

As you were...

For the record I went through a restructure about seven or eight years ago now where I was made redundant. One of my workmates quit at the same time due to not liking the restructure and I ended up applying for his role. Turned a redundancy into a promotion!

That role got me the experience for the role I have now in Aus which in essence was another step up and I've been here and happy for almost five years now. Longest I've ever been in one position and not long off the longest I've worked for a single company.

Milchy and HS. Let the good times roll!

filthridden wrote:Haven't ventured into this thread for a long while, glad I did!

Agreed. I love visiting and talking about real life stuff with fellow NRL fans

Alright, I'll hit you guys (Or females) with a dating/relationship question...


Last week I messaged someone of the female species, I met said female for a total of 10-15 minutes before hand a few days earlier at a hobby we have in common. I asked if she wanted to hang out to do said hobby. She accepted, which was great. At this time I was more interested in just hanging out, nothing more, nothing less, it was cool to find someone who I could hang out with.


Anyway, as we were hanging out and talking about stuff, I quite enjoyed her company. She was asking me questions, which I happily answered as I am more experienced in this field. We talked about real life stuff too, nothing serious but turns out have a few common interests and stuff we both want to do which was cool. I'm fully aware of some of the "signs" of flirting/somebody is interested. She did hit me on the arm, in a fun way. I noticed her feet/legs pointing in my direction, small stuff like that, smiling/laughing etc.


Anyway, that was fun, got home and thought she was cool, I think I'm interested but I'm probably misreading the signs so decided just to do nothing and carry on with my life. Couple of days later she messaged me and asked if I wanted to do something completely different with her, at night. I accepted, but I was surprised. I have a hard time trusting people so I just assumed she was going to back out or we were going to go somewhere and there would be 5 guys waiting there to ambush me and mug me, thankfully there wasn't. (Actually I remember posting in the Fantasy thread I was going to a supposedly haunted place, that was it)

It was quite out of my comfort zone but was quite fun, it was almost illegal, but not quite lol. Nothing "Physical" happened, nor did I want it to. We ended up hanging out for 4 ish hours. At times we were quiet close to each other, we could almost kiss. I couldn't tell if she wanted me to kiss her or not, sometimes we were both standing there looking at each other and she was smiling.


Throughout the week the days passed and she initiated conversation, messaging me "Good morning" "Hows it going" "Hope work was ok" etc on separate occassions. Then we would send a few messages to each other. On Friday (Or was it Thursday?) night we hung out again, did the somewhat same thing at a different location for about the same amount of time. Once again we were so close to each other, literally leaning on a wall for example we were super close, i'm talking 20-30cm apart from each other. She laughed/smiled etc as I did too.

As we were walking in the dark I did grab her hand, nobody else was around. She didn't quiet pull away from me, but she held it loosely, didn't grip my hand at all. Maybe she was surprised/shy/not a hand holding person. I thought ok she isn't interested in me, so I let go shortly after. However, later on in the night she started to hold my arm and the back of my shirt as I was "leading the way" walking in the dark. Also on a few times mentioned that she was cold, yes it was a bit cold but she was wearing more layers than me. I took that as a "Hold me I'm cold" kind of comment, could of been way off though. Later on she said my hands were nice and warm when I asked to feel how cold her hands were.


Later on she suggested we go on a trip/adventure, it's a bit further away this time. I said ok but no dates etc have been put into place yet. She also suggested we do something else around where we live, something about seeing the sunrise.


Does anybody have any ideas on if she might be interested or not? I mean she is initiating conversation via message, she is initiating these trips/nights out and I think she wants to kiss me based on the "signs"  but maybe I'm just misreading everything. We have hung out 3 times in the space of a week.


I have a tendancy to over analyse things rather than just letting it flow.


Thanks!

Yep she's keen mate.

My advice is say something like "it's been amazing hanging out with you" and when she smiles or shows any more physical interest I'd be making a move mate.

The key thing is to get out of your head. Just let it run its course. Confidence is key.

Honeysett wrote:Yep she's keen mate.

My advice is say something like "it's been amazing hanging out with you" and when she smiles or shows any more physical interest I'd be making a move mate.

The key thing is to get out of your head. Just let it run its course. Confidence is key.

Thanks man. I think she is too, but I just don't want to spoil it, she could just be after a friend to do these hobbies with. She messaged me again earlier, without me messaging her so that's a good sign lol. I'll have to say/do something next time I think

Definitely overanalyzing mate. Shes keen.

If you're not going to ask her out:

1. You've got rocks in ya head
2. Post her number

Hmm ok thanks guys.


Will see what happens over the next few days....

Yeah mate, she wants some Vitamin F, well eventually anyway.

Sounds like you're both pretty shy, and from that point of view it's been hard for both of you to initiate anything further, but you both seem to be enjoying going slow and a little further each time, so enjoy that too.

Hey Finchy, yep she sounds keen.

Honeysett is right, just make sure you let her know you're keen. She might be worrying the same thing. Sounds like you have a lot in common and enjoy each others company. Nice one. No need to rush, just don't let it slip away.

Thanks for the replies everyone. Why do I get this sinking feeling that we won't be seeing each other again lol. Oh well. I mean it seems like this has all happened too fast as it's only been just over a week we have been hanging out, but we have spent 3 times together, plus talked about going on further trips.


Next time I'll say something. How do you approach this? Go all in guns blazing or what?

Omg thanks again guys for all the replies. Honestly appreciated so much!

Finch wrote:Thanks for the replies everyone. Why do I get this sinking feeling that we won't be seeing each other again lol. Oh well. I mean it seems like this has all happened too fast as it's only been just over a week we have been hanging out, but we have spent 3 times together, plus talked about going on further trips.


Next time I'll say something. How do you approach this? Go all in guns blazing or what?

What ever you've been doing seems to be working so far. No need to change much. Just let her know you've enjoyed hanging out.

Hmm all over.

Plans made last night for tonight have fallen through.

Plans made for tomorrow night but I know it won't happen. Oh well, back to normality

Have faith. May be her dad's James Sutherland and she unexpectedly had to take him to the airport