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Nothing wrong with being the person that helps rebuilds someone. It might not be the perfect scenario for yourself but it's a beautiful feeling when you see someone who's broken and you give them back their life. Being with her even for awhile might make sure life so much better and I think if you can do that in life more than you hurt people then you're living a pretty good existence. While it might not be exactly what you want sometimes it's a better feeling long term to know that you've helped make someone's life better.

Thanks HS. I dont mind "helping" her so to speak, but the fact she said she mentioned she still has feelings for her EX is what got me, also the fact that she wants to go away for 5 days, thats too much for me right now because of the short time we have known each other. I'm getting mixed signals, she wants to see me most/every day, she wants to go on trips/adventures, but still feels heartbroken from her EX and still has feelings for him. Told me that going away will help clear her mind, doing new things taking her mind off it etc. I get the feeling im only the in betweener, make here feel good and "Help" her before she says sorry, I'm going to my EX.


Makes things so much easier if I just leave now, but I don't want to hurt her/she gets hurt physically or emotionally from her EX in the future.

But going away with her for 5 days might be exactly what she needs to move past those horrible feelings and see whether there's a future. At the moment she's being honest with you and that's all you can ask for at this stage. She sounds like someone worth putting in some work for. If you're worried about being hurt you'll never truly found someone. You have to be willingly to put your heart on the line

Is that normal though, for somebody to be interested in someone, while still holding a torch for their ex (Or even just another person)? Seems like you are taking $1 each way, something I would never do.

Anyone around?

She surprised me by taking me dancing, which is fine. However right now I'm in a room with complete strangers doing something  I'm not too excited about. I don't like surprises as an introvert. Had to leave the premises to write this.

Hate being in places with lots of people. It's not social Anxiety, it's because I'm introverted. I'd rather be 1-1 rather than 1-20. Add to that I couldn't care less a out the other people, plus they are all 15+ years older than me.

Ugh

Finch wrote:Anyone around?

She surprised me by taking me dancing, which is fine. However right now I'm in a room with complete strangers doing something  I'm not too excited about. I don't like surprises as an introvert. Had to leave the premises to write this.

Hate being in places with lots of people. It's not social Anxiety, it's because I'm introverted. I'd rather be 1-1 rather than 1-20. Add to that I couldn't care less a out the other people, plus they are all 15+ years older than me.

Ugh

 Just give it a go mate, tough as it is doing something you are not used to!

It's not the dancing, it's sitting around in a room with people. Right now we are at a bar before we go dancing.

Finch wrote:It's not the dancing, it's sitting around in a room with people. Right now we are at a bar before we go dancing.

You are with her though right? Just treat it like any other date fella, just keep the conversation going, You are surrounded by people when you go for a meal right? It's no different, just seems that way because its not something you would think of doing as the norm! If you like her got to get used to taking yourself out of your own comfort zone lad!

I do, everyone is 15+ years older than me. Everyone in suits etc, this isn't going to work. Bus stop 10 minutes down the road keen to just get on it and go home.

Finch wrote:I do, everyone is 15+ years older than me. Everyone in suits etc, this isn't going to work. Bus stop 10 minutes down the road keen to just get on it and go home.

Sometimes you have to just suck it up fella, I would honestly be the same as you but you just have to ride it out for this one thing she obviously wants to do, its what an hour tops? Do it and just let her know after you just didn't feel comfortable doing it, hey you might even enjoy it after you do it!

Get a drink down you and let rip lad!

Welshy wrote:
Sometimes you have to just suck it up fella, I would honestly be the same as you but you just have to ride it out for this one thing she obviously wants to do, its what an hour tops? Do it and just let her know after you just didn't feel comfortable doing it, hey you might even enjoy it after you do it!

Get a drink down you and let rip lad!

Way more than an hour, got there around 7:30, almost 8:30 and haven't eaten yet.

Finch wrote:

Way more than an hour, got there around 7:30, almost 8:30 and haven't eaten yet.

Mate if you like her just got to roll with it and suck it up for this night, can't tell her it's not your thing without giving it a bash!

Ugh. Kill me now.

Report back later I guess one way or the other.

Thanks Welshy. Will upvote later

Finch wrote:Ugh. Kill me now.

Report back later I guess one way or the other.

genuine mate I would be the same, but I'd still follow it through

Yeah. It's honestly not the dancing. I hate being in big groups of people. It's too noisy you can't hear people talk, genuinely not interested on what people have to say. Would rather just be by myself. Having chips right now like a little kid while everyone else has main meals. This is so fucking awkward. I'm so out of my comfort zone

Finch wrote:Yeah. It's honestly not the dancing. I hate being in big groups of people. It's too noisy you can't hear people talk, genuinely not interested on what people have to say. Would rather just be by myself. Having chips right now like a little kid while everyone else has main meals. This is so fucking awkward. I'm so out of my comfort zone

Mate I've been with my missis for 9/10 years, finally getting married this year

She loves these medium people so goes with her sister to see the woman who does the rounds locally, begged me to go for months.

one I don't believe in all that shite and 2 I hate being in that sort of scenario, random people sitting down usually much older like yours

but I finally gave in and went with her last year, just sat there for her had a few drinks and got on with it, I didn't enjoy it but she respected me for doing what she wanted against my usual comfort zone

Ok thank you Welshy. I'm gonna bail I think, it isn't going to work. Too big of an age difference.

Finch wrote:Ok thank you Welshy. I'm gonna bail I think, it isn't going to work. Too big of an age difference.

How old is she and you?

Welshy wrote:
How old is she and you?

Me 27 she 41