by Mearcats Thu May 24, 2018 6:16 pm
@Finch, absolutely nothing wrong at all with wanting your own time and space to an extent. Even if it is for the washing! I am OCD as fuck when it comes to my housework and my schedules around it. I know (and can see from some posts here) that others aren't but I vacuum twice a week, mop once a week and wash for the bride and I the minute the laundry basket is full. Fortunately that usually comes about on a Saturday morning. Perfect. But that's just the way I am. And before people crucify me for it, no, I don't let it affect my social life.
I think the important thing from your perspective (to ensure yourself that you've done nothing wrong) is to be sure in yourself that she knows how important she is to you. You don't seem like the kinda bloke to go willy nilly pissing 3 months of you're life up a wall if you're not invested. Does he understand that? If she knows the importance you place on your time then she should a) understand that you requesting a little time and space is in now way you walking outta a relationship and b) realise that because time is so important to you that respecting it should also be important to her if she's keen on you.
If you can honestly say that she understands that then no, you ain't in the wrong mate. If she doesn't, however, then maybe that conversation needs to be had and rather quickly.
@Honeysett, glad you are making decisions like a functioning adult despite the adversity you're working through at the moment bro. I respect the decision to stay, especially for the pooch. I'd kill to have a dog again but hate kenneling the poor thing and am rarely even home to be able to have one. One day. Good on ya though. As for work, seems like you're making the right decision. And by the sounds of things you should have no worries finding a job! Wanna move to China? I have a business that could definitely use somebody with those attributes and has an interest in people! Lol. But seriously, businesses/companies worldwide often look more at your personal attributes then your resume so I'll wager that you land on your feet no worries at all mate.